🎵 “De Do Do Do, De Da Da Da” – EOA What To Do Right Now (The Police)
- jessica97150
- Feb 20, 2025
- 3 min read
Updated: 3 days ago
Sometimes… there are too many words.
Too many opinions.
Too much information.
Too much overwhelm.
So let’s simplify this:
👉 What do you need to do RIGHT NOW?
⚠️ First Rule (did you say "of fight club?)
If your loved one is still capable of making decisions:
👉 Do this NOW. Not later. Not next month. NOW.
Because once capacity changes…
👉 These decisions get harder👉 More expensive👉 Or sometimes… impossible
⚖️ Legal Documents (Get These Done First)
You can:
Use a lawyer
Or use online services (I used one and canceled before the monthly fee kicked in)
✔️ Durable Power of Attorney (Financial)
Covers financial/legal decisions
Provide copies to:
Banks
Financial institutions
Doctors
✔️ Medical Power of Attorney
Allows you to make healthcare decisions
Give to ALL doctors
✔️ Advanced Directive (Living Will)
Defines medical wishes if they cannot speak
Provide to all providers
✔️ Authorization to Release Medical Records
MUST be signed while they are still capable
Give to every doctor’s office
👉 Also update:
Doctor contact info → YOUR number
Pharmacy contact info → YOUR number
✔️ Will
👉 This one usually requires an attorney
✔️ Compassionate Care / End-of-Life Wishes
These are incredibly helpful tools:
👉 These help guide:
Values
Preferences
End-of-life decisions
🖊️ Notary & Witnesses
Most banks offer free notary services
You will typically need:
2 witnesses
Valid ID
📂 Document Organization (Do NOT skip this)
👉 Scan EVERYTHING
Store on a thumb drive
Make multiple copies
Keep hard copies in a folder for appointments
👉 Think: grab-and-go file
🎥 Record the Hard Conversations
This one is personal—but powerful.
I’ve started:
👉 Recording conversations about wishes
Why?
Because later:
Family may question decisions
Emotions get high
Memories get fuzzy
👉 This protects your loved one’s voice
🧠 Walk Through the Stages Together
Print your stages chart.
Then:
👉 Sit down together
👉 Go stage by stage
👉 Ask:
“How do you feel about this?”
“What would you want here?”
“What matters most to you?”
👉 Take notes
👉 Or record it
This is one of the most important things you can do.
🏡 Plan for Care (Now, Not Later)
Start thinking about:
In-home care
Respite care
Memory care
Assisted living
Hospice
👉 Not because you need it today👉 But because you WILL need a plan
💰 Insurance Check-Up
Go through your health insurance:
👉 What’s covered?
In-home health
Therapy
Long-term care options
👉 Know this BEFORE you need it
💡 Final Thought
This part?
👉 Feels overwhelming
👉 Feels heavy
👉 Feels unfair
But doing this now…
👉 Protects your partner
👉 Protects you
👉 Protects your future
🎵 And Honestly… The Song Fits
“De do do do, de da da da…”
Sometimes the simplest words are the best:
👉 Just start
👉 Just do the next thing
👉 Don’t overthink it
💛 My Advice
You don’t have to do everything today.
But you do need to:
👉 Start today
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💬 Disclaimer
I’m not a medical professional or a lawyer—just a caregiver sharing our personal journey with Early Onset Alzheimer’s. Every situation is different, so please use what works for your family and consult medical, legal, or mental health professionals when needed.
This blog combines my real-life experiences with research, shared caregiver insight, and AI-assisted editing to help organize information and make these difficult topics easier to read and navigate. We’re all just trying to survive and help each other through it.
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