🎵 “I Got You Babe” – Finding Support When You Need It Most (Sonny & Cher)
- jessica97150
- Mar 2, 2025
- 3 min read
Updated: Apr 9
If you’re in this…
You already know.
This is not something you were prepared for.
And it’s not something you can do alone.
Even if you think you can.
💛 Take Care of You (Yes—you)
This is the part we all skip.
Because everything becomes about them.
But if you don’t take care of yourself…
👉 you won’t be able to take care of anyone else
Start small:
Go for a walk
Work out (even 10–15 minutes)
Read something that isn’t about Alzheimer’s
Talk to someone—anyone
You don’t need a full reset.
You just need moments.
🧠 Trauma is Real—Get Help if You Need It
This isn’t just caregiving.
👉 This is trauma.
You are:
Watching someone change
Losing pieces of them slowly
Managing stress you didn’t sign up for
If you can…
👉 Look into trauma therapy for yourself
It helps more than you think.
👥 Support Groups (Use Them… Carefully)
Support groups can be a lifeline.
But here’s my honest advice:
👉 Join them
👉 Learn from them
👉 BUT…
Don’t read too far ahead. Don't spend all your time watching people post the "future" version you may see in your spouse, BUT SHARE those caregivers with your friends and families, so they can understand the progression. For us? I feel it's not a healthy place for us as CAREGIVERS, I know people post to help educate others to see, but I promise as a caregiver, those images erase the NOW, the moment you are in, wherever you are you have to live day by day once you have the steps planned behind you. You cannot fix this or change this, you can only live in the now.
I am not a religious person, but this stuck with me, so much I bought a sign.
✝️ Gospel of Matthew 6:33–34 (NIV)
33 But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Some stories are heavy.
Some are future stages you’re not in yet.
👉 Stay where you are today (but prepare for the future)
👉 Protect your mindset
👉 Enjoy the time you have today
🌐 Online Support (You Are Not Alone)
Here are a few groups that have helped:
Early Onset Spouse/Partner and some Female Spouses/Partners
on Facebook search
Children Support & Counseling
👉 Don’t forget your kids—they need support too.
📚 Local Support (Don’t overlook this)
Check:
Your local library (many host weekly groups)
Community centers
Alzheimer’s organizations nearby
Even groups with older caregivers can be incredibly supportive.
📞 Alzheimer’s Association
They offer:
Support groups
Education
Resources
👉 Find events near you:https://www.alz.org/events/event_search?etid=2&cid=0
🏥 Specialists & Programs
Look for: (GO TO THE GOOGLE) as I tell my mom, GFGI----
Local programs focused on Alzheimer’s
Universities with memory clinics
Early Onset specialists
👉 Getting connected early makes a difference
🔬 Clinical Trials
If you’re interested:
👉 Search: “Early Alzheimer’s trials near me”
There are always new studies happening.
Some may be a fit, some may not—but it’s worth knowing your options.
💊 Financial Help for Medications
If your household income is under ~$90K, you may qualify for assistance programs.
Example:
Eisai Patient Assistance Program
https://www.eisaipatientsupport.com/patient/lenvima/financial-assistance
💡 Final Thought
You may feel like:
👉 You have to carry this alone
👉 You have to be strong all the time
But the truth is…
You don’t.
There are people out there—(mine is Beth) strangers who become lifelines, groups that understand without explanation, and moments where someone simply says:
👉 “I get it.”
🎵 And That’s Where This Comes In…
Even in the hardest moments—
You’ve got people. You just have to find them.
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